Wild at Heart

It is fear that keeps a man at home where things are neat and orderly and under his control. But answers to his deepest questions are not to be found on television or in the refrigerator...If a man is ever to find out who he is and what he's here for, he's got to make that journey for himself. He's got to get his heart back.

"Where are all the real men?" You asked them to be women. How can a man know he is one when h is highest aim is minding his manners? [Men] know their heart is on the run, but they often do not know where to pick up the trail.

Instead of asking what you think you ought to do to become a better man, I want to ask, What makes you come alive? In the heart of every man is a desperate desire for a battle to fight, an adventure to live, and a beauty to rescue.

A Battle to Fight:

Aggression is part of the masculine design, we are hardwired for it...Life needs a man to be fierce - and fiercely devoted. The wounds he will take throughout his life will cause him to lose heart if all he has been trained to be is soft. This is especially true in the murky waters of relationships, where a man feels least prepared to advance.

Women didn't make Braveheart one of the best-selling films of the decade. The Patriot, Rocky, Troy, Die Hard, Saving Private Ryan, Top Gun, Gladiator - the movies a man loves reveal what his heart longs for, what is set inside him from the day of his birth.

An Adventure to Live:

There's a reason the American cowboy has taken on mythic proportions. he embodies a yearning every man knows from very young - to "go West," to find a place where he can be all the knows he was meant to be.

If a man has lost this desire, says he doesn't want it, that's only because he doesn't know he has what it takes. He believes that he will fail the test. And so he decies it's better not to try...Most men hate the unknown and, like Cain, want to settle down and build their own city, get on top of their life. But you can't escape it - there is something wil in the heart of every man.

A Beauty to Rescue:

A man wants to be the hero to the beauty.. It's not just that a man needs a battle to fight; he needs someone to fight for. Remember Nehemiah's words to the few brave souls defending a wall-less Jerusalem? "Don't be afraid...fight for your brothers, your sons and your daughters, your wives and your homes." The battle itself is never enough; a man years for romance. It's not enough to be a hero; it's that he is a hero to someone in particular, to the woman he loves.

The Feminine heart:

Every woman years to be fought for. She wants to be wanted. She wants to be pursued.

Every woman also wants an adventure to share. A woman doesn't want to be the adventure; she wants to be caught up into something greater than herself...There is also a deep desire to simply and truly be the beauty, and be delighted in.

The world kills a woman's heart when it tells her to be tough, efficient, and independent. [Face it] a Christian woman is...tired. No one is fighting for her heart; there is no grand adventure to be swept up in; and every woman doubts very much that she has any beauty to unveil...as for your own femininity, which would you rather have said of you - that you are a "tireless worker," or that you are a "captivating woman?"

God gave us eyes so that we might see; he gave us ears that we might hear; he gave us wills that wwe might choose, and he gave us hearts that we might live. The way we handle the heart is everything. A man must know he is powerful; he must know he has what it takes. A woman must know she is beautiful; she must know she is worth fighting for....Your heart may feel dead and gone, but it's there. Something wild and strong and valiant, just waiting to be released.

...For if you are going to know who you truly are as a man, if you are going to find a life worth living, if you are going to love a woman deeply and not pass on your confusion to your children, you simply must get your heart back.